The Essence of Womanhood (Must Read)

I am a woman and I don’t want to be anything but a woman. I enjoy being a woman. The new woman today does not want to have power over a man,she wants to have power over herself. She wants to understand self actualization. She wants to give the best of herself. But you know what they say-nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.

The new woman must have mentors and "mentees" but she must choose them carefully,lest she ends up like Naomi Campbell-who lost her husband to her "mentee". Every woman must look for a mentor or "mentee" that she can connect with,someone who wants you to be a better you. Avoid women who are likely to be potential threats.



There will be a time when you will be knocked down in life. And when that time comes,stay down.Don’t talk to anybody,not even your Pastor.Don’t run to Papa.Stay down,be angry,cry.Do whatever you need to do.Experience it yourself and get out of it yourself. Know that there is beauty in going through it all and like a phoenix;rise up from your ashes. There is nothing like a woman who has been knocked down and can rise all the time. If you haven’t fallen down-you can’t mentor anyone.

Every woman should do what gives her pleasure and satisfaction because when the going gets tough,and it will(at some point)-she will stay with what gives her satisfaction. She must deploy her will power because that is what defines whether she fails or succeeds. Achievement is a little bit of talent and loads and loads of preparation. So learn all you can as you move along. Don’t be shy.Be your own PR person. Be indispensable on the job. Don’t take anger to the office.Keep your head and heart in different compartments.

Don’t marry swagger. Marry a man who’s looking in the same direction. A woman must never give up her family for her job,because family is the most important part of her life.She must be as committed in her home as she is-to her job because when the chips are down…it is in the family and marriage,that she finds comfort. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

Evelyn Oputu