Must Read- Not good enough?

Interesting article by Chukwuneta Oby!

She confirmed that he is extremely decent and nice to a fault. Just that she needs to pray about everything-because she doesn’t have that ‘connection’ with him. But he told me that all she keeps throwing at him is ‘’I am too expensive for you’’. The same lady was once duped by a man she happened to be in a relationship with…he claimed to be a doctor, talks big and ended up fleecing good money out of her .I am even uncomfortable mentioning the exact amount!



I made her understand that it was her mindset towards wealth that made her fall prey to the first guy. A non greedy fellow hardly falls prey to fraudsters. It is good to have standards but there is more to life. Most rich men we hear about weren’t always rich. A woman started with those men and today…those women can have almost anything that money can buy. You also notice that even when temptation for ‘young body’ comes upon such men…there is always a special place for ‘the woman’ that started with them-in their lives/hearts. Everyone’s destiny is not the same…not all of us are destined to marry rich men. Some are destined to ‘gather’ with their men. You must recognise when materialism ( and nothing else) is leading you. You can never have a connection with someone whom you feel is ‘not good enough’ for you. I won’t encourage any anybody to settle for someone that he/she will be ‘managing’. You have every right to set your standards as high as you want but I tell you this from experience…the few times I let a good person go-I regretted it.

To the dumped guy/lady…don’t encourage anybody to stay with you out of pity. Don’t even let yourself be ‘managed’ by anybody. If the enthusiasm is not there…let go! Yeah, it will really really hurt but let go. Again, don’t be bitter towards the one that has dumped you. Someone whom you are not yet married to actually owes you nothing…just that the manner we go about issues of the heart matters a lot…for the sake of tomorrow. Whoever you are in a relationship with has the right to make his/her final decisions and such decisions must not necessarily have you in the picture. I just have a problem with the deceits, lies, user mentality and (sometimes) violence that are allowed to perpetuate before ‘the mass’ ends. Another secret of life is this…once you have been good to somebody and he or she chooses to pay you back in bad coins…such persons always live to regret it. So long as you walk away with your head held high, eschewing the urge to give in to bitterness or some ugly revenge. Whoever could reward good with evil is so undeserving of you and their exit in your life could be life’s way of bringing something better your way. Also explains why it’s always best to ‘let go’ at such times. Another thing is this…don’t go regretting being nice to such persons. You just met someone that does not deserve you and that should be that. Don’t allow anybody with an ugly attitude to make you less of who you are. Don’t stop being ‘you’ because that is exactly what someone that is good for you will appreciate in you.

To others…If you don’t want somebody, let him/her go. Stop using and disrespecting people. Those are often the things that make people hate without remorse…that feeling of having been taken for a ‘mumu’ all along. Try paying more attention the next time you come across stories about ‘acid baths’ (very unjustified though) involving erstwhile lovers!