Pissed off Blog Reader Asked Why will any female want to settle for less?

Hello readers , I am a regular visitor to your blog. I have never emailed you about anything but I am honestly sickened by this whole Nuella and Tchidi case.

My take on this whole thing is why on earth will any female see a man in a relationship and decide to be a side chick ? It really disgusts me. What has our generation turned into? Why is this only so rampant in Nigeria? Why is it not like this in the UK and US? I am not saying it doesn't happen but the rate at which it happens in Nigeria is disgusting.Continue below....


I blame the girl's reason being because any female I have ever spoken to or tried to advice about dating a married man has used the excuse of "he chased me". My question now is if someone tells you to escort them to the Bermuda Triangle will you do so because they asked you? Why will you want to be anyone's second best? Why will you want to be the reason for another woman's pain? You will be in a relationship you cherish in the future and a lady with the same values as you will come in your relationship as the other woman and you damn right sure she will cause more havoc than you did in the past.

I have heard so many young girls giving the excuse of "married men pay better" , my question now is, are you a prostitute? Why not work hard to earn money? It may be difficult but if you keep working hard you will surely make it. Why will any female want to settle for less? It baffles me why will you want to be a side chick? Why are you good enough to be his side chick but not his wife? Most of you also sit down and hate on the wife which is generally where the problem comes in. The wife doesn't know you exist , she might suspect but she doesn't know you as a person. Yet you on the other hand you probably know the wife you have gone on Instagram to search for her pictures, you've gone to look for what she does, what kind of person she is...this is where the main problem starts so you will now put yourself in a competition with the woman and because you have the upper as per not having much to lose you are more likely to hurt her more than she can ever hurt you.

The sad truth is no man in his right senses will ever leave his wife for any side chick because the way that girl fucked you while you are married is the same way she will fuck any other man while she is married because of lack of regards for marriage. I have seen side chicks going out of their way just to spite the wife and I find that totally mental. No matter the amount of harm you try to bring the man will always make you look like a mentally deranged person when push comes to shove . Why will you want to be that?

Men are not innocent in this. Do not get married if you know you are marrying your wife just to leave her at home every weekend be in the club with your friends chasing little girls that do not match up to your wifey. AIDS is real and shit happens why wait until something terrible happens ? A grown man should be able to have self discipline and control himself and any man that doesn't have self control isn't a man. That person is a little boy no matter their age. When your wife finds out about your affairs what do you plan on telling her? Sorry? Thunder fire you. If it was your wife, what will you say or do?

How come men that are not African especially Nigerian don't do the "all men are cheaters shit" ? This is because they value their relationship and they are scared of the wife leaving but because of the way Nigeria is set up and women are automatically less important, our opinions seize to matter and we are expected to sit in the marriage no matter what but the man can leave when the woman cheats if she does, which is a nasty thing! After all the extra marital affairs men get into how do they look at their wife's? Isn't that when they find faults in her they didn't know that existed before? So use that as a reason to start staying away from home. Running away from their responsibilities. Why can you take your side chick out but not your wife? Isn't she good enough anymore? She was good enough when you married her and the minute you allowed extras into your relationship she became not good enough to you.

My advice is stay away from extra marital affairs whether you are a married man, married woman, single lady, single man. It will forever cause problems! Marriages without outsiders last longer and more fun! Do not give into temptations.

To side chicks... Karma is a BITCH! Nemesis will follow you till your death bed until you beg for forgiveness pray and change your ways. Nigerians should learn to respect and value marriage more.