I tolerate infidelity and never expect or demand my man to be faithful-Yeni Kuti (Interview)

Yeni Kuti , the first daughter of the late Afro beat legend, Fela Anikulapo-Kuti, and the manager of his properties, including the Afrika Shrine, opened up in a new interview with the Nigerian Tribune ,the now single mother of one opened up on how Polygamy changed her views on infidelity..

• What did growing up in a polygamous setting teach you about marriage?

Growing up in a polygamous setting made me more tolerant of the infidelity of men.

•  Did your views on marriage change after that?

Well, I still got married, but I did not expect my husband to be faithful. I didn’t demand or expect it. If he was unfaithful, it would not cause any fight between us.

•  So what could cause misunderstanding between yourself and your man?

I hate lazy men a lot. But the African society has put women at the receiving end one too many times. For instance, if a woman doesn’t give birth, all eyes will be on her, while no one will even point a finger at the man, and it might be the man who is sterile, while the woman is very fertile. I think we women need to fight for our rights more.

•  Do you think the African woman has equal rights as it is in the nation today?

We have more rights, yes, but equal rights? I don’t think so.

• Why did you say so?

When I tried to buy a gun, they said they don’t sell guns to women.

•  Why did you try to buy a gun?

Armed robbers had attacked us at home and I needed a gun to protect myself.

•  But can you shoot somebody?

Ah, if my life or my child’s life is in danger, yes I will fire the culprit without thinking twice. Even when I did gun practice a while ago, it was very interesting, because I was able to see how people become killers, as one gets a lot of power holding a gun. But unfortunately, I wasn’t allowed to own one. Meanwhile, men can own guns. Funny enough, I believe we women are the stronger sex. A man cannot take a broken heart the way a woman would. A woman will take a broken heart and move on. An average man will not recover from a broken heart for years.